In my 33 years of corporate experience I’ve learned that above all else, being a good listener is the true secret to success. I’ve always followed the adage that since we have two ears and one mouth, we should listen twice as much (at least) as we talk. Listening to understand is critical to finding solutions.
Time is money, and though eliminating the problem quickly and effectively is always good for business, it may not always seem feasible or efficient to take the time and make the space to listen.
What gets in our way? Information is coming from multiple media sources and there are always additional mitigating circumstances, e.g., e-mail, texts, and phone calls, contributing to the inability to listen and focus. In other words, there is a lot of noise. This constant barrage of ‘noise’ divides our attention, therefore, I refer to the current workplace as the ‘short attention span theater’.
A casualty of this situation is the ability to listen for understanding and I fear it is becoming a lost art. Being a good listener is a matter of common sense. But as a good friend of mine likes to say: “Common sense ain’t so common.”
The manufacturing environment can be visually and audibly distracting and this can interfere with problem solving. If a Supervisor is trying to ask their Manager for help in improving the efficiency of the widget machine, it’s imperative the Manager hears and understands exactly what the Supervisor is saying. Otherwise, the Manager may address the wrong issue and inadvertently waste valuable time and resources while not correcting the problem.
Here are three key factors to keep in mind when listening to understand:
- Be Present. A lot of non-verbal communication takes place during a discussion and one of the biggest ‘turn-offs’ is when the story-teller feels like they don’t have the complete attention of their audience. Good listeners show they are 100% engaged in the discussion. In the example above, the Manager could move to a quieter, distraction-free area for the discussion. They could also turn off walkie-talkies and not use their cell phones to ensure there are no interruptions. Focus is key.
- Be Empathetic. It’s important to show that you ‘can feel their pain’ when being told about an uncomfortable or difficult situation. Being sincerely empathetic shows that you truly understand what they are going through and how it is affecting them. In our example, the Manager could relate to their experience with the widget machine and the Supervisor, to let them know they have faced similar issues and had the same frustrations. Making a connection improves communication.
- Have an open mind. Good listeners show their audience that they are not making any judgments or jumping to conclusions in the middle of the discussion. The story-teller will not be inclined to disclose all of the details if they feel they are going to be cut off before they finish telling their side of the story. Using the example, the Manager could refrain from blurting out how to fix the problem at the beginning of the discussion. The Manager could listen to everything the Supervisor had to say and then together they come to agreement on the best course of action. An open mind creates an open dialogue.
The words of Dale Carnegie can be very helpful when starting a discussion, “And so I had him thinking of me as a good conversationalist when, in reality, I had been merely a good listener and had encouraged him to talk.” From the book, ‘How to Make Friends and Influence People’.
For more pointers on how to be a good listener, check out ‘9 Things Good Listeners Do Differently’ by Lindsay Holmes (posted on Huffingtonpost.com 8/14/2014).
Problem-solvers in the organization will be much more effective if they have good listening skills. Being able to evaluate a situation accurately is a skillset needed by everyone in the business world.
I’ve had the honor of seeing many changes in how things work (or don’t work) over the years and I don’t see the world getting any less complicated in the near future. Technology will increase the flow of information (creating more noise) and this will contribute to shortened attention spans. Knowing how to listen will become an increasingly valuable skill in the short attention span theater.
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